other day I got the statistics on factors that influence whether a couple is not divorced. It seems that divorce increases (or decreases) as six factors: the income of the household, education, the moment you have children, the time of marriage, family history, and religion. Each factor has a different weight, for example, the income factor is most important. The study shows that relatively mature couples, with some degree of religiosity, who come from stable families that earn enough to minimize the financial pressures, and have the intelligence and discipline to complete both the College and take responsibly to children are far more able to have successful marriages. On the other hand those who show maturity, intelligence and self-discipline in other modes are likely to be strong although they may cost a little more. And those that combine human maturity with a deep commitment to spiritual values \u200b\u200bin the heart of family life, are almost assured of success slowing almost unpredictable disorder. None of this is absolute because people and circumstances vary too. Statistics teach us to learn from the past to have some vision. And they tell us that certain behaviors lead to better consequences than others.
Let me think out loud about it. Certainly if children are a strong marriage and it will be well-matched easier to understand that marriage is a relationship without problems, no fights, but a relationship in which the commitment is put above everything. The example of the previous generation gives the following is very important, for good or for evil. If parents defended the value of marriage, the children will have more reasons to do when they reach the difficulty. A second thought comes to me from the need to understand the marriage commitment as a very special time of personal growth, do not speak of independence or autonomy, or become sexually active. I speak of maturity, ability to take responsibility for oneself and what is more important to be responsible for the other and the children will come. The decision by the other in marriage requires taken seriously and not pushed by the fever that produce a lot of rampaging hormones.
But there is more yet. When we add all these factors leave room to be 22.42 percent accurate, the risk of divorce. This is part of freedom, personal effort, the decision to go ahead, the capacity to forgive. If you want to achieve the perfect marriage should know that not going to find. What you will find in every relationship is the proposal of giving one's freedom, the individual. This grant requires the best breeding ground possible, but never will be supplied with nothing. Maybe it's what we are already ahead of life need to remember, we need to relocate our donation to the one in front of everything. Maybe it's what generations that follow us need to know, that while not willing to grant unconditional marriage really has nothing, even if you have money, even with education, even if they have children, although they have the required age, but their parents are wonderful, and even go to Mass every Sunday.
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